Apprendre c'est vivre / Learning is living

The then and now of love

2012-02-09T09:03:00.001-04:00

It seems to take longer for people to find a mate theses days and I wonder if it’s in part due to people not being able to accept each other as much as they used to.

They say that times have change but do people live more fulfilling lives now or was it the case before?

If something wasn’t broken … then why change it?

Figuring things out

2012-01-18T10:24:00.002-04:00

I strongly believe that we were put here to figure things out about life and it's even more so when we're living with someone. 2 heads are really better than one and the lessons learned in a relationship aren't the same as the one when we're single.

We learn the most about ourselves by observing others.

Any thoughts?

Not a fan of "small talk"

2012-01-17T10:38:00.001-04:00

Most of you know that I’m not a fan of “small talk. We were not put on this earth to repeat "Hi how are you" billions of times. We're here to figure things out, everything is a test where you can only fail if you don't learn from your mistakes.

In life, lessons are repeated until they're learned. You learn the most during set-backs.
After life slaps you through the face (such as a break-up, bankruptcy ...etc) we usually,naturally, go on a period of self-analysis. We go over everything in our minds to try to figure out what we did good, bad or could of done better.

The past should only be revisited for self-growth purposes (in a positive manner). It's not meant to bring us down only to help us move forward better.
Rocky says it best "Life is not about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward."Thomas Edison said "I did not fail 10 000 times. I found 10 000 ways that doesn't work."

Keep moving forward.

Hollywood love

2012-01-10T08:22:00.001-04:00

Hollywood does tend to "pretty up" things when it comes to love. Most of it is sunshine and rainbows to them when really it's a freaking war fought within.

Most lost what love truly means. It's not about finding the perfect person it's about learning to love an imperfect person perfectly.

Love, the feeling, is like happiness ... it comes and goes. Nobody else but yourself is responsible to find the love for your partner. Of course, your partner should do things that will help in that sense but at the end of the day it's your responsibility since it's your feeling.

Feelings are what allows us to understand each other. If you give away the responsibility of your feelings to someone else then, I think, you're missing out on the core purpose of life which is the mastery of self.

Growing up

2012-01-05T08:56:00.001-04:00

When looking back in my teen years, or kid years, I see a very shaky individual and a thing that I acquired over the years is a little bit of self control. It’s getting better and better the older I get.

I think it’s the result of finding out who we are. I would of found out who I was sooner if I would of been expose to more intense situation.

Fear, pain and sorrow has a tendency to reveal to us who we truly are.

Trial and error: The relationship edition

2011-12-23T11:54:00.001-04:00

"The art of love ... is largely the art of persistence." -Albert Ellis

When you’ve been on the dating scene for quite some time you come to realize that there’s somewhat of a pattern to be found. A thing you might notice is that more often than not the problem is with you more than it is with your encounters.

It’s true that the perfect person doesn’t exist. So what now?

It’s easy to find someone with similar interest than ours. We might have feelings for them for a while and it eventually goes out. At this point, most relationships ends but it shouldn’t. That’s when the real work should start. The work is what it is … work. It’s not sit down and wait till the feelings comes back. It’s getting up and trying to figure out the reason why the feeling is gone.

I often find myself in stressful position at work that I sometime bring home. If this is done too often, we might come to the conclusion that the problem is home and not with the work. Be careful of where the feeling originally began.

Relationship is mostly about accepting people for who they are.

Wrong goals

2011-12-20T08:16:00.001-04:00

A partner isn’t supposed to be pursued but rather should be a “side achievement” while in the pursuit of your main purpose.
Now before you think I’m a total ass, let me explain my issue.

When ever I would find a woman of my liking, I would literally put my life on hold for her. If I would go to the gym on regular basis, I would stop to hang out with her. If I was supposed to meet with friends, I wouldn’t go cause I wanted to be with her...

This is a wrong approach purely because I was making her my world rather than having her part of mine. There’s a big difference here. Nobody wants to be with someone who they feel doesn’t have a life of their own.

Feeling wise, the love for her would be gone quite quickly because of it. I mean, picture this … there’s still things that I wanted to do but I would stop myself from doing it all because of her … who did I subconsciously blamed for it? Her of course and she had nothing to do with it!

If you want the love feeling to last, don’t make your partner your entire world. Make your partner … well your partner in your life.

Let’s be friends

2011-12-19T09:27:00.000-04:00

I got an unexpected txt on Friday from my ex-girlfriend. She wanted to stop by to give me some presents before she went away to her parents for vacation. We also went for a ride to see some xmas light (very impressive ones I might add).

During the ride, I could feel a tension between us. I think there was a question that we both wanted to know the answer of but we were afraid to ask. The question being “Are you seeing anybody right now?”I know for me, I didn’t ask because I was afraid the answer was “yes” (what a weird cycle to be in!).

Obviously, a “yes” to such question is to be expected. It’s just too soon for me to know about her where abouts (She had to work quite a bit to get me to go on a ride her … I just can’t say “no” to that dam woman … and she just doesn’t take “no” for an answer... she should be in sales).

Depressing moments

2011-12-14T10:48:00.001-04:00

I had many sleepless nights recently due to various issues and it started to affect my over all mood during the day.

I found out that if I don’t go to the gym, eat right and go to bed at a decent hour, it will be harder for me to have a positive attitude during the day. Little problems seems to be bigger, little obstacles take longer to overcome … every setbacks just add weight to my shoulders.

How did I fix it? I started sleeping more and noticed a difference almost the next day.

Let’s do bad things!

2011-12-13T08:44:00.001-04:00

We sometime find ourselves in a urge to do something out of the ordinary... or something “bad” just to get out of a rut of our lives.

We think that by doing so it will bring us happiness but it only give us pleasure and it doesn’t last long. We sometime have a period of regret that closely follows our little “rebel” phase.

Think twice about doing that bad thing you had in mind! :)

Don’t fall back!

2011-12-09T08:11:00.001-04:00

It’s easy to fall back in something that we told ourselves we wouldn’t do anymore. It’s important to remember why we committed ourselves to leave it behind in the first place.

I have periods of time where I reallllllly want to go back on my decision but I know if I do so it will make me miserable again.

Keep moving forward!

Self inflicted diseases

2011-12-08T13:28:00.001-04:00

Ever had an ailment that you’ve decided to take into your own hands to figure out what it is? The first thing that you did was open up google and look for the symptoms? After browsing through a list of possible disease, what started as a small ailment escalated into the point where you think you’re going to die?

Me too!!

It’s important to know that it’s normal to have issues with our bodies and that most of them aren’t dangerous.
While doing a research online, or brain tends to focus so much on the symptoms of “X” disease that you may think you have it. I’ve looked up many diseases and each site have their own definition and list of symptoms so who do you trust?

The best thing to do is to wait a little while to see if it doesn’t go away and if the problem persist, go see a doctor.

This is Serious!

2011-12-06T09:05:00.001-04:00

You can only do something for so long without having any result. There will be a time where a mental switch will activate itself and tell you “alright, it’s time to get serious … you should be further ahead of where you are; what’s going on?”

At that point, you’ll do what ever it takes to get success because you finally believe that you can achieve it.
How long do you have to fail in order to have that mental state? It’s individual based … it takes me a long time to get it. I’ve seen some that doesn’t go through such period and get serious right away.

What type are you?

A man's interaction with women

2011-12-02T13:41:00.001-04:00

“For a man to get along with women he must learn how to get along without them.” -The Expendables

The above quote, from the movie “The Expendables”, made me think a lot about how my interactions with women usually go.

I believe that communication is done with feelings wrapped around it. If you don’t truly feel love, it will be felt when you say “I love you”.I started considering this when ever I had a conversation with a woman. I would ask myself “How do I feel about it?” and most of the time I felt like “I needed the woman to love me”. This affected how the interaction was going. The posture was different, the feeling wasn’t right and I just couldn’t get the woman interested in me at all.

I have a different approach all together now. I don’t care about them at all, I don’t look nor try to find excuses to talk to them. I have places to go and things to do.

I originally thought that this would affect how many women would interact with me but it didn’t. They do the first steps now, I just play along and fill the blanks.

Be true-always

2011-11-30T08:30:00.001-04:00

Setbacks in life comes with a great deal of learning. It’s not something that I look forward to but when it happens I embrace it as a natural part of life. My last set back was about a person who came in my life out of nowhere for a very short period of time.
She stayed because she believed I was someone that I’m not and she believed so because she met me during a time where I portrayed such image. Needless to say that she left soon after she realized it.

Why did I portrayed a different image at the time? I didn’t think I was but looking back I was doing different things than I am now.

This relationship thing is one of the hardest thing to figure out. I’m fully aware that the perfect person doesn’t exist and it’s a trial and error kind of deal … man can it ever be a painful experience at times.

I get bored with’em!

2011-11-29T09:24:00.001-04:00

I write this blog at the risk of looking like an ass, I really am sometimes. I like to think that it’s because I never found the right person but I get bored with woman after a few weeks of dating them. They notice it for sure and usually leave at that point too which is fine.

The discovery of the other person is what excites me the most. After I know about their habits or way of life, I usually leave them emotionally and stick around physically. I do so in an attempt to better understand my feelings. It’s very frustrating to come up to that point when you know the other person is awesome but you just can’t seem to connect with them anymore.

Logically, they're lovable but emotional ... it's just not there. What need to change?

Who else experienced something similar?

V for Vendetta - Beyond the movie

2011-11-28T09:40:00.001-04:00

I was very excited to see V for Vendetta when it was first released in 2006. James McTeigue had done some awesome work with “The Matrix” movies and I had no doubt that his new film would be just as awesome.

It’s interesting how a movie can affect popular culture. These days, we rarely see a protest without the famous “Guy Fawkes” mask. It comes with a message of change that can only be fully understood by those who saw the movie.

What does “Guy Fawkes” mask represent to you? Do you have a mask of your own?

If you're looking to buy the mask, you can get it here.

Doing it anyway!

2011-11-24T08:36:00.001-04:00

If you want to get good in anything you will have to sometime do it even if you don’t feel like it. It has been said that in order to be an expert in anything, one must have done it for more than 10 000 hours.

It’s hard to do anything without being distracted these days. As I’m writing this, I’m receiving txt messages on my phone... You will need your undivided attention to what ever you’re doing in order to get good at it. Keep distractions away, they’ll only be wasting your time.

What do you want to get good at?

Less blogs!

2011-11-23T10:57:00.001-04:00

You may of noticed my lack of blogs lately... I’m sure it happens to every writer. I ran out of things to say! I still have the urge to write but that fire, or rage, inside of me is going not as strong.

What do you do for inspiration?

Busy Mind

2011-11-21T14:59:00.001-04:00

It dawn on my today, during a corporate massage, that this 30 min massage was the longest time I spent sitting and doing nothing else but thinking and relaxing.

When I’m home, I always try to occupy my mind with mindless things just to get the feeling of “I’m bored” as far away as possible.

I believe that the mind need this time of rest in order to figure things out. When was the last time that you just stop and think?

Talent - just an excuse for our lack of abilities?

2011-11-17T10:38:00.001-04:00

I’ve got my hand on the “Talent is overrated” book by Geoff Colvin. The first few chapters challenged my thinking on “natural gift” (or talent) of an individual. I realized that when ever I would say that a person was “Talented” in a area I was actually saying “I can’t do this but he can because he was born with a gift”.

Geoff Colving used many example to demonstrate where “talent” comes from. It’s not something that someone is born with but rather something developed over a period of time through hard work.

Tiger Wood, which is considered a prodigy in golf, was an example used in his book. Earl Woods, Tiger’s father, was the influence behind Tiger’s love for the sport. Earl would practice golf for hours on end with tiger wood watching before he could even walk. At the age of 3, tiger got his first golf club and started practicing with Earl.
Is Tiger Wood talented? Of course! However, he wasn’t born with any natural gift. He worked hard to acquire the skill set he now posses.

With work/time, you too can become “talented” in the area of your choosing. Start now, time is very limited and, through aging, works against us.

Employees are trained consumers

2011-11-16T08:20:00.001-04:00

An employee is a trained consumer. In no other quadrant (see Robert Kiyosaki cashflow quadrant)do we see people so interested in the cost of an item. When ever such item is on special, the demand suddenly rises even if people don’t have any use for the item which makes employees (at least most of them) impulse buyers.

Did they make coupons for a business owner in mind or with employee in mind? Did they create “financial plans” of cars for employees or business owners?

Employees trained consumers thought by the marketing department of business.

Think twice before buying an item.

If you look closely you’ll find regrets

2011-11-15T08:42:00.001-04:00

You are not the same person today than you were yesterday. Even if you spend your days giving it your all, if you look back at your life you’ll find areas where you could of done better. You may even regret doing it the way you did.

At the time, it was the best that you could do. The perfect life doesn’t exist. “A life of no regret” simply means that you shouldn’t be focusing on what you did wrong other than to learn from it (Some constantly remind themselves how much of a “looser” they are).

If you are remembering a bad event from the past and you can feel yourself becoming depressed, change the subject in your mind :)

Live, love, forgive and forget.

The art of getting drunk

2011-11-14T08:32:00.001-04:00

Granted this blog is a little bit out of the ordinary. You really can learn something about every situation and here’s what I’ve learned about … well … drinking.

If “loosing” control with alcohol is what you’re looking for then avoid caffeine based product before/during drinking. Why? Caffeine based products (pop/energy drink/coffee) are design to bring you “mental alertness” which is exactly what you don’t want when you drink.

The body can get rid of about 8% of alcohol per hour which means that drinking only beer, or other low % alcohol breverage, may take you while before you get drunk. A few shots usually help solve that problem for me.

If you get that “loosing control” feeling, stop drinking breverage with a high % alcohol unless you’re looking for a big hangover. To keep that feeling, simply drink a low % alcohol an hour (remember, the body gets about 8% of alcohol out of your system per hour).

Drinking a lot of water before going to sleep will help reduce your hangover. Some say that crackers also helps them with the hangover.

IF YOU DRINK DON’T DRIVE!

False myth:-Alcohol makes better sex: This isn’t true, the only reason why the sex would be better is because it would be done with less “shyness” and both may be more daring to try new things.-Drinking energy drink, or other caffeine based product, will bring me enough mental alertness to drive: Caffeine based product doesn’t remove the alcohol out of your system, only time does. Don’t drink and drive.

We don’t want to think

2011-11-09T08:15:00.001-04:00

Entertainment has become a big part of our lives to the point where we rarely have a moment to think anymore.We can now watch a movie while walking down the street or while taking a leak. We’re connected almost 24h to various devices designed to make our lives easier.

The side effect of this is that while we’re connected to those, we’re getting disconnected from our own lives. We let the devices do the thinking for us.

It’s fun, it’s practical, do we have to be available at all time to it? What is your experience with devices?

Self Awareness fail

2011-11-08T08:17:00.001-04:00

I’m amazed at the errors I’m able to pick out of my past. I never woke up with the intention of doing them and at the time I thought I was doing the right thing. It’s only when you’ve grown a little bit, and look back, that you’re able to find them.

Wouldn’t it be great to have such a high level of self awareness that you would be able to prevent those errors rather than make them? Sometime it’s as easy as not saying anything!

It’s easier the second time

2011-11-07T10:07:00.002-04:00

If you’ve set your mind to eat healthy and you miss a day of doing so … the second day becomes easier not to follow that rule.It’s like once that “rule” is broken, it’s okay to break it again. It becomes harder to get yourself on the right track again.

In time like these, remember why you started it in the first place. That should help you gather the courage to start over again. :)

Distractions

2011-11-04T08:47:00.002-03:00

At this point in my life I’m aware that we’re here for a limited time and that it’s increasingly important to have focus. Yet I still find myself doing things that are not part of my important things just out of boredom .

I heard yesterday that a good way to move forward is to leave behind the things that doesn’t get us anywhere.

Are you able to identify things in your life that are distracting you of your goals?

Broken inside

2011-11-02T08:26:00.005-03:00

“A crooked line doesn’t know it’s crooked until it compare itself with a straight one.” - Unknown

It takes a humble attitude to compare yourself with someone else. I only realized how broken I was once I started hanging out with people who had it better figured out that I was.
They had it figured out with God, financially, relationships … my “flaws” (I determined them to be flaws) were made evident and I got a good idea of what I needed to work on.

The first thing I’ve noticed once I started to figure some things out is that everybody is broken but many don’t take the time to analyze themselves.

What do you need to work on?

Repeating the same mistakes

2011-10-31T14:00:00.002-03:00

Different people + same mistakes = similar result

The only constant about life is change. We constantly have to improve ourselves if we want to get anywhere in life and one area where we have to be careful of is in our friendships/relationships.

If you lost a couple of relationships due to cheating … it may be a good idea to change that in an attempt to have a successful relationship (which, I believe, should be the goal).

We don’t grow from habits, it’s doing different things that help us grow. Try different things, learn and move forward. There’s so many mistakes to choose from!

"We Live" - Superchick

2011-10-28T09:49:00.000-03:00

There's a cross on the side of the road
Where a mother lost her son
How could she know that the morning he left
Would be the last time she'd trade with him for a little more time
(so she could say she loved him one last time)
And hold him tight
But with life we never know when we're coming up to the end of the road
So what do we do then
With tragedy around the bend

We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love
We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love

There's a man who waits for the tests to
See if the cancer had spread yet
And now he asks why did I wait to live 'til it was time to die
If I could have the time back, how I'd live
Life is such a gift
So how does the story end?
Well, this is your story and it all depends
So don't let it become true
Get out and do what we were meant to do

We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love
We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love

Waking up to another dark morning
People are mourning
The weather in life outside is storming
But what would it take for the clouds to break
For us to realize each day
Is a gift somehow, someway
And get our heads up out of this darkness
And spark this new mindset and start on with life cuz it ain't gone yet
And tragedy's a reminder to take off the blinders and wake up
(to live the life)
We're supposed to take up
(moving forward)
With all our heads up
Cuz life is worth living

We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love
We live, we love, we forgive and never give up
Cuz the days we are given are gifts from above
And today we remember to live and to love

“Letting go” words from YODA

2011-10-27T08:34:00.001-03:00

"Attachment leads to jealousy. Train yourself to let go of the things you're afraid to loose." -Yoda

You can probably tell by now that I’ve been watching star wars lately and I was amazed at the words of wisdom I could pick up here and there from the JEDI.

The above quote got me thinking about my past. It’s true that if I didn’t let go of an ex, a feeling of jealousy would arise for whatever I would hear from her doing.

Can this philosophy be applied while being in a relationship or does it have to be when it ends?

Feelings are focus related

2011-10-26T08:21:00.002-03:00

Have you ever heard of the term “Find your happy place” or “focus on the good side of things” ?

Feelings can be controlled, it’s a matter of changing your focus. If you keep thinking about past break-ups, your feelings will match the experience. On the other hand, if you keep thinking about how much fun you had swimming that one time, or you will have in the future, the feelings will also match.

What are your thoughts?

Two Life Paths

2011-10-25T09:52:00.001-03:00

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked own one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth.

Then took the other as just as fair
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same.

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet, knowing how way leads onto way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence
Two roads diverged in a wood
And I took the one less traveled by
And that has made all the difference.

-Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken

Too much to think about

2011-10-24T08:34:00.001-03:00

Some of you may have noticed that I missed a couple of blogging days. All I’ve been reading, in the past couple weeks, is the bible.
While there’s a lot to talk about on the matter, there’s also a lot to think about and right now I’m just trying to figure out the scriptures.
Fear not my friends, more is coming.

On another note, feel free to log in to my facebook to see pictures/video of my recent adventures with some amazing friends! :)

Travelling for cheap

2011-10-20T10:24:00.001-03:00

Exploring the world doesn’t require a lot of money nor going to far away places. All you need is a compass, a bag, some food/water and a good pair of shoes (you don’t even need pants!).

Some people have told me “I wish I could explore like you do” what most don’t know is that I didn’t even leave New-Brunswick all that much yet. All the exploring I did is in my own “backyard”.

Next week-end, prepare a trip somewhere you haven’t been before and experience something new.

Have fun my fellow adventurers! :)

Before The Morning Chords and Lyrics – Josh Wilson

2011-10-19T08:57:00.001-03:00

Do you wonder why you have to feel the things that hurt you
If there’s a God who loves you, where is He now
Maybe there are things you can’t see
And all those things are happening to bring a better ending
Someday somehow you’ll see, you’ll see
Would you dare, would you dare to believe
That you still have a reason to sing
Cause the pain that you’ve been feeling
It can’t compare to the joy that’s coming
So hold on you gotta wait for the light
Press on and just fight the good fight
Cause the pain that you’ve been feeling
It’s just the dark before the morning
My friend, you know how this all ends, you know where you’re going
You just don’t know how you’ll get there, so say a prayer
And hold on cause there’s good for those who love God
But life is not a snapshot, it might take a little time
But you’ll see the bigger picture
Once you feel the weight of glory
All your pain will fade to memory
Once you feel the weight of glory
All your pain will fade to memory
Would you dare, would you dare to believe
That you still got a reason to sing
Cause the pain that you’ve been feeling
It can’t compare to the joy that’s coming
Come on you gotta wait for the light
Press on and just fight the good fight
Cause the pain that you’ve been feeling
It’s just the hurt before the healing
Oh the pain that you’ve been feeling
It’s just the dark before the morning

Songwriter: Josh Wilson, Ben Glover

Source: http://www.topchristianlyrics.com/2010/04/19/before-the-morning-chords-and-lyrics-josh-wilson/

Mathieu the Explorer

2011-10-18T08:35:00.001-03:00

It started as a way for me to get away from my problems and it accidentally turned into something more. I no longer wait for week-ends to “get away”, I look forward to them to go explore this great province of mine (New-Brunswick).

I’m to the point now that I’m thinking of doing a show of my great adventures. So far, they’re just bits of things that happened during the week-end. Sometime they’re in French, other time it’s in English … there’s no consistency.

The idea is to gather individuals willing to meet up places and have fun exploring. I thought about naming the “Show” “Regular Joes” due to the commonness of the individuals in it.

Any thoughts or ideas?

The devil hour

2011-10-17T08:33:00.000-03:00

The devil’s hour is the name given to that time of the night where you wake up due to a worry or unfixed problems in your life.

“I will lie down and sleep in peace, for you alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety.” -Psalm 4:8

Though a person is suffering great distress, to wake up at night due to worry/problems could mean that they need to trust in God's endless concern for them. Some problems just won’t go away even if you worry about them.

No FEAR

2011-10-14T08:58:00.001-03:00

I remember having T-Shirt with the “No FEAR” logo on it. It’s one thing to say it and another to feel it.

The worse thing that can happen to you is death. Death shouldn’t be feared but embraced as a natural part of life. Once you come in peace with this truth, a great deal of your fears and worries goes away. What’s left are either life worries which also include the fear of loosing people you love.

Life is meant to be lived on the edges with some adrenaline rushes here and there.

FireFlight - Unbreakable lyrics

2011-10-12T14:02:00.002-03:00

Unbreakable lyrics
Songwriters: Cox, Justin; Drennen, Glenn; Drennen, Wendy; Hawkins, Rob; Richardson, Dawn; Shorb, Philip Lee;

Where are the people that accused me?
The ones who beat me down and bruised me
They hide just out of sight, can?t face me in the light
They?ll return but I?ll be stronger

God I want to dream again, take me where I?ve never been
I wanna go there, this time I?m not scared
Now I am unbreakable, it?s unmistakable
No one can touch me, nothing can stop me

Sometimes it's hard to just keep going
But faith is moving without knowing
Can I trust what I can?t see to reach my destiny?
I want to take control but I know better

God I want to dream again, take me where I?ve never been
I wanna go there, this time I?m not scared
Now I am unbreakable, it?s unmistakable
No one can touch me, nothing can stop me

Forget the fear it?s just a crutch
That tries to hold you back
And turn your dreams to dust
All you need to do is just trust
God I want to dream again, take me where I?ve never been

Source: http://www.elyrics.net/read/f/fireflight-lyrics/unbreakable-lyrics.html

Connecting through experiences

2011-10-11T07:55:00.001-03:00

It’s been a while since I did anything with my cousins and this week-end I decided to take both of them to climb the highest peak in the Atlantic provinces (Mt. Carleton, see Facebook page for pictures/videos).

In the beginning, I felt a bit disconnected from them but it didn’t take long for that connection to grow back.Hard work, sweat and tears is what brought us back together.

If you’re going through the motion with your relationship, organize a trip that will provide the same experience. Tough time seems to help create memories that turns to unforgettable memories.

I totally recommend Mt. Carleton. The climb was awesome and the reward felt great, worth the share with those special someone of yours.

You still love your partner but it’s not reciprocated?

2011-10-07T10:33:00.001-03:00

"If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours, if not it wasn't meant to be." - Unknown

If you’re in a situation where your partner doesn’t love you and want to call it quit, agree to it rather than be in a position where you become the “needy” type.

Understand this, even if you are to stick around, they already have a mindset on the person they think you are. There was probably some arguments in an attempt to change you but nothing changed. If you do decide to change at the breakup point, it will require more work because your partner doesn’t believe you can anymore. Be sure to ask what to focus on.

For a relationship to work, both need to understand that life isn’t about finding the perfect person but learning to love an imperfect person perfectly.

Do your best and let the rest take care of itself

2011-10-06T08:31:00.002-03:00

“You can’t stop fate; you can only discover it” -Unknown

They’re things you can’t stop from happening no matter how hard you try. The thing is you don’t know what those things are which means you should always be giving your best.

There’s nothing worse than having something happen to you and feel like “you could of done more”. Yes it would probably have happened regardless but wouldn’t it be nice to be able to tell yourself “I gave it my all” rather than feeling you still had some bullets in your gun?

You have one chance to show the world all that you’ve got. Don’t do things half asses, keep moving forward.

Linkin Park - "In The End"

2011-10-05T09:49:00.001-03:00

(It starts with one)

One thing I don't know why

It doesn’t even matter how hard you try

Keep that in mind, I designed this rhyme

To explain in due time

All I know

time is a valuable thing

Watch it fly by as the pendulum swings

Watch it count down to the end of the day

The clock ticks life away

It’s so unreal

Didn’t look out below

Watch the time go right out the window

Trying to hold on but didn’t even know

Wasted it all just to

Watch you go

I kept everything inside and even though I tried, it all fell apart

What it meant to me will eventually be a memory of a time when I tried so hard

And got so far

But in the end

It doesn't even matter

I had to fall

To lose it all

But in the end

It doesn't even matter

One thing, I don’t know why

It doesn’t even matter how hard you try

Keep that in mind, I designed this rhyme

To remind myself how

I tried so hard

In spite of the way you were mocking me

Acting like I was part of your property

Remembering all the times you fought with me

I’m surprised it got so (far)

Things aren’t the way they were before

You wouldn’t even recognize me anymore

Not that you knew me back then

But it all comes back to me

In the end

You kept everything inside and even though I tried, it all fell apart

What it meant to me will eventually be a memory of a time when I tried so hard

And got so far

But in the end

It doesn’t even matter

I had to fall

To lose it all

But in the end

It doesn’t even matter

I've put my trust in you

Pushed as far as I can go

For all this

There’s only one thing you should know

I've put my trust in you

Pushed as far as I can go

For all this

There’s only one thing you should know

I tried so hard

And got so far

But in the end

It doesn’t even matter

I had to fall

To lose it all

But in the end

It doesn’t even matter

Source: http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/linkinpark/intheend.html

Learning Vs Understanding

2011-10-05T08:07:00.002-03:00

“When you’re young; you learn. When you’re older; you understand.” -Unknown

You can read all the books in the world, you may not be able to understand the meaning of all of them until you experience it in your life.
Should you not read? Absolutely not, everyone should read to keep their mind sharp and ready to face daily problems. A book, from someone else’s experience, can improve your life.

What book are you currently reading?

Phew!

2011-10-04T11:36:00.005-03:00

Alright, I usually write a few blogs beforehand when ever I have time to do so and I haven’t had the chance lately.

I spent the last couple of days praying about some personal issues of mine currently going on in my life. I want God to help me not to remove my problems but to make me stronger for them.It’s not that I have big problems, it’s just that I don’t know how to deal with them.
I know what I logically need to do but my feelings tell me otherwise and for me to do what logic says is hard when feelings gets in the way.

Hakuna Matata right?

Looser - Over time

2011-10-03T08:39:00.004-03:00

We spend 24 hours a day with ourselves and we tend to memorize our weaknesses rather than our strengths. The list of weaknesses grows over time because we get to know ourselves better.

During setbacks, we tend to get that list out and go over it. It’s more and more depressing to do so the further ahead we are in our lives which means that it’s increasingly important for us to learn how to cope with setbacks.
For someone, like me, who over think everything during setbacks it can be hard to let go. What I have to do is to make sure I eat right and exercises to exteriorize the pain. If I’m alone in my apt and I can feel a depressing moment coming, I take my car keys and go for a drive. Often, just going outside and feel the wind on my skin makes it go away.

Remember that the one thing you want to do (being alone) is also the worse thing that you can do. The devil works at his best when you’re alone.

Do what you say

2011-09-30T12:07:00.002-03:00

God sure works in weird ways sometimes. I always was the kind of guy to say something and do something else when the time comes. By doing this, over time, people loose the trust that they have in you and there’s no relationship if there’s no trust.

I never had any consequences from doing so or at least that I could see (cause I found out today that there was). Starting today, my motto is “If you said it … DO IT!”

Can you look back in your life and pin-point times where you said you were going to do something but ended up not doing it?

How feelings can be selfish - The strongest woman in the world

2011-09-29T09:04:00.003-03:00

I’ve had my ups and downs in the past few months. Felt pain, joy and self pity. I was so self-centered on my own “bad experiences” that I failed to see what people close to me was going through.

A friend of mine just got troubling news about a lump she had on her breast. Nothing has been confirmed yet but she was asked to go see the doctor ASAP for “an update” and further investigation.You can judge the size of a person by the size of the problems they’re facing/overcoming. She is the strongest woman I have ever met. She was telling me the news like it was nothing, she was just as joyful as ever while I just felt like crying for her (which I did, on my way back home).

I’m thankful that I get to be her friend. I learn so much with her. I love you lots :)

Relationship and Conditional Sex

2011-09-28T08:16:00.000-03:00

I’ve been in relationships where sex was just not present for “X” reason. Sex should be given when ever there’s a need for it. “Conditional sex” doesn’t fix problems but can potentially create another.

Conditional sex is, to it’s core, an attempt to control the other person. Do this and you’ll “earn” your intimacy with me kind of deal.

If you don’t feed your dog, will he just stop asking for food? If the need for intimacy is not taken care of, it won’t simply go away. A relationship is an agreement to take care of each other’s needs. Sex being one of them.

There’s a time to fix problems and there’s a time to be intimate. It’s best not to mix the two.

Couple in the same boat

2011-09-27T08:00:00.003-03:00

A relationship is like having two people in a small boat. Each person having a paddle in their hands; they have to work together in order to keep the boat in line.

If one person paddle harder, the boat will go in circles. If both paddle on the same side, it will go in circles. If one doesn’t paddle, it will go in circles. If both doesn’t paddle then it just drifts away …

Focus on only what you can do. Be sure to be in sync at all time with your partner.

Pain is good?

2011-09-26T08:50:00.002-03:00

In a crazy way, I think we sometime want to get hurt. Have you ever been on the “victim” side of a break-up? Were you compel to ask for news about your ex afterwards? What “good” did that do?

This situation is like removing a band-aid quickly then, when asking for news, putting it back on just to remove it afterwards (There’s more than one way to see this).

Pain is often a good indicator of the things that need to change. However, we seem to willingly look for it at times when we should walk to opposite way.

Using humor to connect

2011-09-23T08:11:00.002-03:00

The best way to get in someone’s heart is to make them laugh your way through. Humor is a great ice breaker, it doesn’t really matter what you say. If the other person laugh, you just broke down a wall.

I can prove this by asking you which comedian you like. Chances are you like which ever one makes you laugh the most. I bet you don’t even know the comedian all that well and yet you’ve accepted him.

How long would it take for someone who doesn’t make you laugh to get in your heart? Probably a long time.

When you just don’t connect

2011-09-22T08:33:00.002-03:00

There’s times where you’ll meet people that you simply can’t connect with. Instead of appearing funny/nice/honest/... to them, you’ll be an annoyance.

The best thing to do in those situation is to let them be and move on. There’s simply nothing you can do to help the situation. Be sure to apologize if you feel they saw your interaction as arrogance.It’s not your fault, they may just be having a bad day.

Have you encountered anybody like that recently? (That you either found annoying or you feel like you were an annoyance to them)

Being uncomfortable

2011-09-20T09:14:00.000-03:00

When ever I’m uncomfortable my mind seems to think of ways to release it and bring me back into a more comfortable level.The feelings are sometime so strong that I find myself acting in ways that I wouldn’t normally act. I understand those feelings but I have yet to control them. They have a big influence over my thoughts and actions.

Those uncomfortable times happens when I’m alone and the best way to deal with them is to get out of that environment. Sometimes, just a trip to the gym helps clear my thoughts.

What do you do to clear your mind?

Listen to yourself

2011-09-19T08:21:00.000-03:00

I had a pretty interesting discussion with Jessica yesterday over lunch. She was telling me how good her advice was (not in a bragging way and I had to agree with her) and how little she was listening to them herself. I have to say that I’m pretty much the same way. Isn’t it easier to see the mistake in others?

I think it’s because our feelings tends to get in the way of our logic. Someone in an abusive relationship can tell someone else not to stay in an abusive relationship.

It’s easier to give advice to a situation we’re not emotionally involve in than it is when our emotions are involved.The best way to see the error in our ways is to ask people for advice and consider it in our decisions. How many situations are you emotionally stuck in?

Not so different

2011-09-16T09:03:00.004-03:00

The brain, while being various is size, produce similar thoughts in each individual. Why is it that when a group of people is faced with a simple logical question that they all find the same answer?
If we all think differently, shouldn’t we be finding different answers?Our “Logic” is what makes us similar in our thinking. Logic is but an obvious next step to an issue; it’s seeking the right answer.

Where did that logic comes from? If I tell you to give me the answer of “15-2” what will you give me? Where did you learn that “15-2 = 13” ?

You tell me :)

4 Common relationship killer (From Lifehacker.com)

2011-09-15T12:13:00.004-03:00

Lifehacker is a website that contains random post from “How to have a better sex life” to “Simple ways to wash your car”.

The purpose of the website is to help the readers in various areas.One of today’s post identify 4 common relationship killer. I was able to relate with the article and I’d thought I’d share it with you guys.

Here’s the link:http://lifehacker.com/5840566/how-to-avoid-the-four-most-common-relationship-killers

Remembering a feeling

2011-09-15T08:48:00.001-03:00

Memory is an amazing thing. Because of it, we’re able to remember the kind of feeling we had while experiencing things in our lives.

It’s the reason why some relationships are hard to forget.

We may forget a few moments here and there but the feeling never seem to go away. It’s like our brain recorded the chemicals required to duplicate the feeling and never changes the recipe.

This could also explain why some stay in abusive relationships; they just focus on the feeling they used to have instead of seeing things for the way they are (assuming the abusive relationship happened gradually).How do you feel when you think about events from your past?

Temptation

2011-09-14T08:39:00.002-03:00

Temptation comes in many different forms and It promises nothing more than pleasure. Pleasure doesn’t bring happiness; only an increasing desire for more pleasure.
It’s a vicious cycle that, once in, is hard to get rid of.We instinctively know when we’re being tempted by something. Identifying those things isn’t a problem, it’s just a matter of not succumbing to it.

If it doesn’t feel right; don’t do it.

Intimate - Asking what she likes

2011-09-13T08:28:00.001-03:00

Boys, women are usually more complicated, in bed, than we are. What “turns us on” doesn’t necessary mean that it’s a “turn on” for her.

Some of you may have read books on the matter and I say it’s all good (I do too). However, everyone is different which means that we can’t just ignore asking what she likes.

Making sure she’s satisfied is your responsibility. Don’t be afraid to ask her so you can be the best that you can for her. (This can also be applied in other areas)

The power of words

2011-09-12T08:49:00.000-03:00

I often say things expecting to hear something. I can tell someone I’m going to leave just to hear them say that they want me to stay.
What I realized is that I’m expected to do as I say more often than hearing what I want to hear out of them. The thing is, if I never had any intention of leaving; I’m now obligated to do so. (Confused yet?)

Unspoken expectations often have undesirable results. What I learned out of that is to be more careful as of why I say the things that I say. If there’s a meaning behind the words, beside what they actually mean, it’s best to rephrase it to better reflect how I feel.

Acne - Vitamin A

2011-09-09T08:37:00.006-03:00

I’m not a dermatologist. I’ve had acne problem since I’m like 14 and I thought that it’s something that will go away over time. The truth is that oily skin isn’t age related but food related. Your body uses what you eat to regenerate itself.

I’m aware that there’s all sorts of product that help reduce the acne on the skin by drying it but that doesn’t help the root of the problem.

After doing some research, I found out that acne is cause by an excess of sebum in the skin and that it wasn’t necessary caused by fatty food (I rarely eat fatty food). I read that a lack of Vitamin A can cause an excess of sebum in the skin which turns into acne.

Vitamins A comes from potatoes, carrots, salads, cantaloupe etc (you can do a research online to find more). Notice that almost none of those are found in fatty food, if they are, they were all processed and probably contain less vitamin A than if eaten from the source.

Add more vitamins A to your diet and see if it does a difference to you :)

Sources: http://www.ehow.com/about_4613837_what-is-sebum.html

Sex; Not so sacred anymore

2011-09-08T08:20:00.002-03:00

There was a time where it was odd to have sex prior to marriage. After a while, having sex with a girlfriend was considered “okay”.

These days, it’s not only “okay” to have sex with a girlfriend, it’s “okay” to have sex with friends (don’t need a relationship).

To me, a relationship is more special and requires more work than friendship. To have sex with a “friend” is like saying that “I’m too lazy to work on a relationship but I still want to fill that need for intimacy”.

Are we so afraid to commit to a relationship that we not only not want to wait until marriage, we don’t even want to wait to feel that “special” connection anymore (hence doing it with friends)?

Never Stop

2011-09-07T08:40:00.001-03:00

It seems to be harder to go back to the gym once you take a couple of days off. The mind, after convincing you not to do it the first time, seems to be stronger the second/third/... time around.

Obviously, this doesn’t only apply to the gym but any other good habit that requires work on your part. It takes more motivation to keep a good habit than a bad one.

The secret to keep a good habit, like going to the gym, is simply not listening to ourselves when our mind tells us to take a break. It’s to go even if we don’t feel like it.

Keep the momentum going! :)

Break up - Moving on to the next relationship

2011-09-02T08:35:00.001-03:00

I will just assume that everyone is different on this. I tried a few different ways to try to “move on” faster and I find the best way, for me, is to just wait a while. Lately, I’ve attempted to meet a new person and I felt like I wasn’t ready for it yet.

How did I know? I felt like it was too fast.

I’ve been in a couple of relationships in my life but I can’t say that I’ve deeply felt anything for any of them. My last one is the only time that I really ever gave my best to it.

The feeling can only be compared to my soccer days when I would work hard to win a game and we would end up loosing it. The lost hurt more because I know I gave it my best but I’m still proud having given my best.

Take your time before jumping in a new relationship.

School of life

2011-09-01T07:58:00.001-03:00

After school, education becomes a choice. We will always learn but one should thrive for it rather than waiting for it to happen. The more you know, the better the chances of fighting the fires before they happen.

Why do people stop educating themselves after school? Because in school, they were force to learned and not teached how to educate themselves. School made learning look like a chore when really it’s meant to be a way of life.

We’re all different just like everybody else

2011-08-31T08:50:00.001-03:00

Our DNA is unique but not our behavior. This is what allows us to be categorized into groups.

There’s various behavioral groups out there, the first that comes into mind is “Kid - Teen - Adult”. What defines a kid? What defines a teen? What defines an Adult?
In this case, each individual, that’s within the level above the next, can probably identify what defines the group that they just came out of.

What behavior do you have and what group do you think that puts you in?

Feelings - The connections

2011-08-30T07:55:00.001-03:00

Feelings is what help people understand each other. It’s the bridge between hearts through which communication flows. When the hearts are in sync, there’s a great deal of understanding. A single word can have a chapter long meaning.

True friends shares this connection and all relationships should not only have it but vow to deepen it.

One must be strong enough to open their hearts in order to initiate the bridge building process. The connection is made once the other person respond to it by opening themselves. Trust and good listening skills is needed.
Some people will use this to hurt you but stopping this is like saying you don’t want to connect with anyone.
The joy of the connection is stronger than the pain of getting hurt.

If you don’t fully invest yourself in your relationships then what’s the point of having them? What are you waiting for? Connect with people!

Big kids

2011-08-29T07:57:00.001-03:00

It’s in my belief that nobody will take care of “me” better than myself and, because of that belief, I tend to do things “my own way”. Chris Brady calls it a “Rascal” which is not a bad person, just someone who don’t always follow the “rules” put in place by the corporate world. Which is why I get some “schooling” here and there.

It’s like being a grown up kid. The maturity is there, the respect is there but the “I’ll kiss your butt for a raise” attitude isn’t.

Say nothing

2011-08-26T09:04:00.000-03:00

Lately, I learned about how powerful who ever gives you your paycheck is. Their level of commitment, to the business, is way greater than mine which is probably why they are where they are.

When ever you’re called in the office to get some “schooling”, the right thing to do is listen and say “Yes sir” to what ever he’s talking about. Show some respect and it will go a lot smoother than if you don’t.

Employee focus

2011-08-25T07:56:00.001-03:00

It doesn’t matter the kind of business you have. It doesn’t matter if you create things or offer services to clients. An organization’s most important resource is its people. It’s not the clients, it’s not the customers … it’s the employees.

The employees are the one who provides the services or products. If they’re not happy, your product or service will suffer from it.

Be employee focus, treat them well and it will be returned to you.

Perfection within

2011-08-23T08:19:00.001-03:00

There is within us an idea of a perfect person. Instinctively, we assume that the closer we get to that image, the happier we’re going to be. That image is formed from comparing ourselves with others.

When we compare we usually compare or weaknesses with someone elses’s strength. There’s no such thing as the perfect person but if we are to compare ourselves to someone why not compare ourselves to, in my case, Christ (or other religious figure who were deemed perfect)?

After talking to a few people about this, I realized that not everybody had an ideal self. Those with pride don’t thrive to get better, they think they’re already there. If there’s a belief to be always right or perfect, why would there be a desire to excel? Why would there be a need to get better if perfection is already at their footsteps?

Opening of a box - The beginning of an experience

2011-08-22T07:57:00.003-03:00

The package of a product is where it all begins. Prior to our hands-on experience with the gadget, we first have to unlock it’s secret through it’s box.

Many companies seems to overlook the importance of that starting point. The box is the first impression that one gets, the second being the gadget itself.

Apple mastered the box department. Those of you who got a new apple product know what I’m talking about. The box is so well put together that you really feel like you have something special even before touching the product. It’s like they’re telling us “this product is special to us and now it’s yours”.

That first impression, I believe, helps put apple on top of the chart. If a company put so much care on something so mundane as a box then surely they do it everywhere else (and they do).

Have you had any good/bad experience from just the opening of a box?

Source of the image: http://www.dimensionsguide.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/Cardboard-Box.png

Communication in relationships

2011-08-19T08:25:00.000-03:00

If sex can be a good indicator of how well a relationship is going, communication is often what causes a relationship to be good or bad.

I recently learned that not voicing the problems is not only not making them go away, it also changes how you interact with your partner. Since it builds up inside of you, you’re more likely to get angry at other small things that isn’t important and may deviate the focus from the main issue.

Example:
-I’m frustrated because we’re not intimate often enough. One day, I go in the bathroom and find the toilet paper roll empty and freak out to my girlfriend about it. She thinks I’m mad because of the toilet paper roll when really the issue is the lack of intimacy.
She now focuses her attention on changing the paper roll rather than working on the intimacy issue.

Know that nobody was put on earth to specifically hurt you. People hurt you without even noticing it and those who does it on purpose only do it because they can’t stand themselves. Communicate in a kind way and find solutions together. :)

Accidents Happens

2011-08-18T11:28:00.001-03:00

This morning, I was involved in a small accident in the parking lot of my apartment. We were both eager to get to work and I believe that’s what made us a bit distracted. We’re both fine with only a few scracth on his car and a potential bigger problem on mine (I’m having it checked today, wheels felt a bit shaky coming to work).

I think it’s pretty funny how quick things like that happens. It’s God’s way to tell me “Pay attention!”.

The corporate world

2011-08-17T08:49:00.001-03:00

The corporate world makes me sick. The “Hey how are you? Good you” conversation drives me nuts. We’re ask to dedicate our lives to a cause that is not our own knowing that we can get layed off the second the market goes down. How can we invest ourselves in something that can go away the next day?

They design a ladder for us to climb on and most of the time the only way to get the next step is to push another person out. No wonder it’s filled with know it all babies. No wonder that people want you to get ahead, just no ahead of them.

How can it be changed? I believe the only way is for a company to invest in self-growth material rather than material designed to make them better for the company.

Making a mechanic learn more mechanic skills makes him a better mechanic. Making a mechanic learn self-growth makes him a better person and a better person makes a better mechanic.

What are your thoughts?

Big Boss

2011-08-16T08:01:00.001-03:00

Being a “boss” is often just a title. I’ve encountered many superiors who I have a lot of respect for and others that … well they’re just superiors.

The difference between the two is how they interact with the people bellow them. Are they giving orders or leading them? Are they treating people as individuals or employees?

I don’t feel like I have to elaborate more on that, we pretty much know the difference instinctively.

If there’s fear towards a superior than he’s just a superior, if there’s a feeling of mutual respect than he’s a leader.

Opposition

2011-08-15T08:04:00.000-03:00

There is such a thing as people living mediocre lives. Some of them will fight you when ever they feel you’re doing something different. They don’t mind you getting ahead, they just don’t want you getting ahead of them.

Some people spend more time trying to destroy other people’s building than building theirs. If you help other people build their buildings, there’s a chance they may help build yours. We need the help and support of other people to bring us to higher heights.

For more on the subject, see my bellow post.

Biggest building in town:
http://mathieuhachey.blogspot.com/2010/11/biggest-building-in-town.html

When family and friends turns into the enemy:
http://mathieuhachey.blogspot.com/2011/03/when-family-and-friend-turns-into-enemy.html

Where are the men?

2011-08-12T09:13:00.002-03:00

We live in a world where men aren't teached how to become men anymore. They're told to quit when things get hard, leave when things get complicated and give up on themselves when ever they can.

Anything worth achieving will demand work. To become who you're supposed to become, you'll have to leave behind who you are.

Don't have time for excuses

2011-08-11T08:48:00.003-03:00

Don’t have time for excuses Everybody creates excuses in pairs. One excuses usually sounds good and the other one is the real one.

”If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way; if you don’t, you’ll find an excuse”-Proverb

When someone is unwilling to do something, instead of saying no, he will come up with something to say to “save face”. I don’t really care what the first excuse is since it’s purpose is only to sound good, I can only work with the real excuses and in order to find the real excuse, i have to bypass the first one.

For more on this, I recommend reading the book “How I raised myself from failure to success in selling” by Frank Bettger

Here’s the book on amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Raised-Myself-Failure-Success-Selling/dp/067179437X

Broken people

2011-08-10T08:47:00.000-03:00

I’m amaze to come across people who are well put together on the surface and broken on the inside. The more I fix myself, the more I’m able to see the struggles of other people and I just feel like screaming at them to keep on pushing or to read the good books I’ve read that helped me!

Even if you show people the way, they still have to walk through it and many doesn’t even bother because they don’t believe you have the answer to their struggle. They believe that they’re the only one to feel that way. They just don’t know that there’s millions with the same feelings.

Lysoft.ca Review

2011-08-09T09:17:00.004-03:00

Lysoft.ca is a electronic online store situated in Fredericton with which I did business recently. Some of you may know that I’ve purchase an Iphone 4 (see review: http://mathieuhachey.blogspot.com/2011/08/iphone-4-review.html ) and that I needed a protective case which I ordered through the Lysoft.ca website.

It was cheaper than anywhere else I’ve look and I have to say that the customer support was the best I’ve seen in quite some time. I had to deal with them due to various issues, the first being that I entered the wrong shipping address and from there a series of email started.

The amount of care they shown for a customer who only bought 30$ worth of product is what will make me come back for my future electronic needs.

Like they said “Every customer is a customer. You can’t put a price tag on that”. That, my friends, is the secret of a successful business.

Here's the website: Lysoft.ca

Blog Goal

2011-08-08T07:59:00.001-03:00

There’s an average of 200 user visiting my blog each month. I want to triple that by this time next year.

The plan
-After some study, I’ve noticed that there’s a significant difference of page views when doing reviews and relationship blogs. I will do more of those without loosing focus of “Learning is living”. I still want to tap in the many various learn-able subjects that is life.

-I’ll be my own best promoter. With the help of twitter and Facebook, I’ve gathered a small community that I know is reading my blog from time to time. I will promote my new blogs on those social sites more.

-Reading more books will help me develop blogs with more/better information.

-Since I’m continually growing, the things I write may not be true to me anymore. I will do searches, on my blog, for the subjects I want to write about and update those blogs if needed. This will help keep my post up to date.

-The template I have does the job but it’s something that many have seen before on other blogspot blogs. I want one of my own so that it stands out more.

-I want to put some ads up and see how that goes. It may help keep people on my site longer and help them find value in it. (Better chance of them returning)

-Add links to other blogs that’s mentioning a similar subject than what I’ve posted. This will help my readers to have a different view than my own and may help them value my information more.

-I have a crazy idea of doing contest where my readers could win prizes.

-Posting comments on other blogs will help get my name out there more. I’ve set myself a goal to post at least 1 comment a day to someone else’s blog.

-Adding more video/pictures that support the subject of the blog.

If you have anything you would like to add that you think could help me reach my 600/month goal, let me know :)

Jealousy

2011-08-05T08:23:00.001-03:00

Trust is the very foundation of a relationship. Jealousy is a lack of trust. It comes from people with low self esteem; they have problems trusting themselves so they believe that others can’t be trusted.

Life is an interpretation of ourselves.

Jealousy is a form of worry. A jealous heart is able to create entire scenarios that never happened and make them so real that they will behave differently with their partner.

If you’re one of those that think jealousy is a sign of love;it’s not. I have yet to come across a relationship book that tells me otherwise.

Not allowing the other person to go out is not the cure of a jealous heart. If you create a prison; prisoners will try to escape to freedom.
If you want to trust your partner, start by trusting yourself. Self growth is required to better identify the source of our jealousy and overcome it.

I recommend reading the bible.

Leading or dating

2011-08-04T09:17:00.001-03:00

Since I’ve started working on my business, I’ve encountered many woman who has shown interest in me rather than my business. I haven’t done anything with any of them and I find it hard to understand the error in my ways. I don’t flirt or do anything of the sort. I’m only meeting to do business.

Building something like this single is quite intriguing to say the least. If the question “Are you seeing anybody?” comes up, I can just pack my bags and leave. That’s my cue that she met me for the wrong reasons.

Maybe it’s my outgoing personality, or that I take good care of myself or maybe these women are just lonely and want someone to love. What ever it may be, I have yet to find a solution.

Iphone 4 Review

2011-08-03T09:10:00.003-03:00

Well this is it folks- I got a Iphone 4 and am officially in the smart phone consumer sphere. While I’m aware that it’s not the best smart phone out there in terms of specs. I do, however, feel like I’m carrying a beast of a machine.

My past experience with apple helped with my decision to buy the Iphone. I was very satisfied with my little nano and shuffle and I just assume I would be with the Iphone. I have to say that I was right.

The nano and shuffle are the best mp3 player I ever had. I've got one of the first generation nano and it still works perfectly after all those years. Something I can't say about all the mp3 player I had (I was lucky if they would last me a year!).

Needless to say that I have big expectation for my new Apple product and so far it delivers.

In a nutshell:
+Everything in one place (Phone,Mp3, camera, calendar, games, email, apps …)
+Cool design
+Crazy amount of apps
+Responsive touchscreen
+Good for txting
+Headphone with microphone
+Feels like you have something special
+Supports different kind of music files
+Multitasking
+Lots of accessories available
+Frequent update

-/+Full charge last me a day
-/+No physical button for camera(Snaptap app can fix this)
-/+Need Itune software
-/+Need your credit card for account subscription

-/+Can't delete pre-installed apps

-Price
-No Flash player
-Lots of bad apps
-Play only .mov movies
-Apple owns you and your apps (If an app is discontinued, it will be erased from your phone)
-Scratch-able screen/back
-Doesn’t fit in my pockets (I do have a big case for it)

LIFE 11-1-11

2011-08-02T08:42:00.002-03:00

I just came back from a Team Major Leadership seminar and I have to say that I’m super pumped about what is coming. There are big changes in the industry that will monetize the “Facebook” concept by distributing information.

There’s no better time to get in the business than today. Who ever starts, today, to build a business structure with TEAM will take full advantage of the changes that’s coming on 11-1-11.

What are you waiting for?

Coming back Monday

2011-07-27T16:25:00.000-03:00

I will be away from the computer/internet until Monday. I will have tons of ideas for blogs when I come back. Stay tuned :)

“Research”

2011-07-27T08:33:00.000-03:00

Being in the health market; I see a lot of people who wants to do “research” on my product and they do so by going online. They make their decision based on the first blog that mention it.

Now, I have access to scientific research that proves my product is good but because I’m the one who supplies the research and the product, they automatically think that it’s bias.

What are the chances that I paid a scientist million of dollars to falsify the result of a research vs the chances that the “blogger” had no clue what he was talking about?

Note: Dr Shauss, one of the scientific behind the research, is not affiliated with the product. He just tested it.

Being aware that we’re going to die

2011-07-26T08:06:00.000-03:00

We will all die eventually, there’s no way around it. That truth becomes more evident the older we get.

I remember when I was a teen, I would do things and my parents would tell me “You will regret this later on”. Well now I’m 25 and I can safely say that they were right.

Life is like climbing a one sided mountain. The longer we climb, the more we see that there’s a limit, or a top. Many dies way before they realize there’s a top, they just arrived to the top without knowing simply because the first few steps are the easiest ones.

The body is design to make us realize that we’re here for a limited amount of time. As we grow older, there’s a few aches and pains that appears. Flue tends to stick with us longer and our energy level seems to be on the low more often than we would like it to be.

Death should not be feared but embraced as a natural part of life. We’re here for a limited amount of time, let’s make our lives count by influencing this negative society in a positive way.

There’s more to a txt than just letters

2011-07-25T08:26:00.000-03:00

I realized that the wording I use when I feel confident, on a txt, is different than when I don’t feel confident (It’s funny how non-constant confidence can be).

The body is quite amazing. It can tell you what’s wrong with it. If you spend time studying your past txt messages, you may find quite a bit about yourself in the process.
How you feel shows in what you say or do.

Trying to hide it is not the answer. Finding out why is. Spend time trying to figure out your emotions and be at peace with it. It’s okay to feel sad, or down. Figuring out your emotion will help diminish the amount of time that you are in such state of mind.

What great things have you learned about yourself today?

"Leadership: Tidbits and treasures" book review

2011-07-22T08:45:00.001-03:00

I usually write reviews of the books I read in a small journal. Through some chain of events, I’ve lost it and I decided to write one on here instead.

Now before I start, here’s a little bit of my recent background. I’ve been through a lot of emotional experience lately and I use books to try to figure out things about my life. "Leadership: Tidbits and treasures" book, by Chris Brady and Orrin Woodward, did just that.

The title best defines what the book is about; “Leadership: Tidbits and treasures” is a book with short chapters that cover various subjects for individuals looking to lead. The book covered a vast aray of subjects (Integrity, character, freedom, politics … just to name a few).

What I liked the most about those authors is the simplicity of the words they use. I don’t need to have a dictionary at hand to understand the point that they’re trying to make. They also tend to back up their messages by quoting what other authors said on the subject which shows that they spend time studying.

If I would have a rating system, I would give this books 4.5 thumbs up out of 5 (I would give it a 5 thumbs up but one of my thumbs got cut off in half … I don’t want to talk about it). I recommend this book to anyone who’s looking for an easy read on leadership.

Relationships turn around

2011-07-21T09:01:00.001-03:00

How can a loving couple eventually end up not even speaking to each other? I understand that there’s times where it’s needed to part ways and I just wonder when does an act of love becomes an annoyance rather than a expression of love.

If you still had feelings for the person that broke up with you, then you may know what i’m talking about. It’s when you tell them that you miss them and they “sigh” rather than be happy about it. Which is the normal thing to do since their heart wonders somewhere else.

Some say that they grew apart while others are afraid of commitment or happiness. All I know for sure is that once the “in love “ experience is over, love becomes work and not many out there are willing to work for it.

Happiness VS Pleasure

2011-07-20T07:55:00.001-03:00

"Pleasure does not bring happiness; it only brings an increasing hunger for more pleasure." -Orrin Woodward

I recently came across a paragraph, in the book "Leadership: Tidbits and treasures" by Chris Brady and Orrin Woodward”, that putted this in better words than I ever could. Here’s what Chris Brady had to say about Happiness/Pleasure bellow:

“It is common to hear people say, “I just want to be happy.” And who does not? It’s certainly much better to be happy than sad. Good times are better to experience than bad. But pursuing happy is a little off the mark. It is like trying to grab smoke.
Whenever we make happiness our goal, we set ourselves for a futile chase. First, we do something that we think will make us happy. Then, once that pleasure is through, we move on to the next. Usually, the pleasures have to escalate to continue to satisfy, and we find ourselves in an endless climb. From pleasure to pleasure we go, never really finding happiness.”

-From "Leadership: Tidbits and treasures" by Chris Brady and Orrin Woodward. Page 275"

I often stop myself to wonder if what I’m doing will bring me pleasure or happiness. If happiness is the goal then I think it’s important to ask such questions just to be on the right track. I find pleasure to be more easily accessible. Pleasure is often associated with to a sin.

Business ethic - Why I choose Apple

2011-07-19T08:37:00.000-03:00

A long time ago, I was looking for an mp3 player and decided to go with Apple. I was hearing great things about the ipod and was able to find one second hand (nano) for 35$. A couple years later, I can safely say that it’s the best mp3 player I ever had (still works perfectly).

Now that I want to get into the smart phone market, which company do you think I will be more likely to choose? I’m aware that the Iphone 4 isn’t the best smart phone on the market but I don’t trust any other company. Apple already proved to me, with the ipod, that they build things to last. I can’t say the same with any other company.

Business ethic is really important. By making quality product, in one area, apple actually sold me on an entirely different market even while not being the best. Everything, from the un-boxing to the IOS, looks like it’s a big deal. Those of you who bought an apple product new know what I’m talking about.

Being indifferent - The end of a relationship

2011-07-18T09:13:00.000-03:00

If you have experienced a break-up, you’re familiar with the “indifferent” stage. It’s when you feel like you’re now annoying the person who broke up with you.

There’s not much you can do when it’s up to that point. I’d say that the opposite of what you want to do is the right thing to do. Assuming that what you want to do is to be back with the person who broke up with you.

Moving on from a relationship is like removing a band-aid. You can do it slowly so that the pain is small but last longer or you can do it quickly which is more painful for a smaller period of time.

Your choice.

Not choosing IS choosing

2011-07-15T07:55:00.000-03:00

“Most decisions are not fatal and every decision increases your ability to decide the next time.” -Orrin Woodward

Not choosing something is choosing what was set up as default. It is better to decide and assume the consequences than it is to stay put and let things happen. Being indecisive sometime come across as low self esteem.

Make decisions! :)

I write because I want to

2011-07-14T08:11:00.001-03:00

“Either write things worth reading, or do things worth the writing.” - Benjamin Franklin

I’m not a writer. My English ain’t that great and I often miss the point that I wanted to make … yet here I am writing again.

I do it because I like it. So far, it’s been more beneficial to me than anything else. It helps me put things into perspective and “forces” me to learn in order to find things to talk about.

I’m thinking of writing a book, down the road, using my best blogs. I’m not looking to make money, I just feel like I can write things worth reading.

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